Do not let your partner say, "If you loved me, you'd do it." Instead, retort back, "If you loved me, you'd wait." Sex is not a test of your love for a person; saying no does not mean that you failed your partner or that you don't love him or her.
If you do say no, be firm. Do not say no and then try to calm the situation with romantic gestures because this just confuses the idea. You must draw the line so your partner gets the idea.
You do not have to have sex with someone just because you are in a relationship with him or her. If your partner tries to pressure you by threatening to break up with you, let him or her do it. No one should be in a relationship for sex.
"The best discussion to have with your partner is about weighing the pros and cons of the situation, things like STDs and pregnancy," said Darlene McClure, a retired Scott High School health teacher.
"If they care about you, they'll care about you until you're ready," she continued. "When you start a relationship, [sex] is something you should discuss at the beginning. In the heat of the moment, your emotions would cloud your thinking."
If you do decide to say yes to sex, be sure to take the appropriate precautions, such as using condoms and birth control. STDs and pregnancy are always possible, so take steps to prevent them.
The bottom line is that your body is your own, so do not let others decide what you should do with it. And no matter what you decide, do not make the decision lightly. Do whatever you feel is right, regardless of what others think.