I don't care if it's your mom, dad, best friend, teacher or whoever. If they cannot say that they love you and would proudly welcome your same-sex partner just as they would an opposite-sex partner, then cut them out of your life as soon as you can. Because here's a dirty little secret no one wants to say: when you love people, you will accept them completely. And if they don't love you, why keep them in your lives?
3. Only come out when you feel like can.
I hate saying this, but sometimes you need to stay in the closet in order to survive, especially in West Virginia. It does not make you a coward; it makes you smart. You are protecting yourself from possible harm. Come out when it is safe to do so.
4. I love you.
I don't know, but I love you. I love you, and you are important, and you matter. If you ever feel ashamed for being the way you are, if you ever feel like no one loves you, remember that I do. And remember that there are plenty of people out there, including our President, who are fighting to keep you safe and make you feel loved.
Remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
I know it's hard being different, but it's a blessing, not a curse. Be happy with who you are. Realize that not everyone is going to understand you're not making a choice in liking the same sex or being transgender, but also realize that there are plenty of people who will.
So keep your chin up, and don't let things get you down. And if you ever need to talk to someone, here are some helpful, and confidential, organizations that can help:
n It Gets Better Project:www.itgetsbetter.org (A website that offers support and encouragement for LGBT teens, including state resources like LGBT centers and advocacy groups)