CHARLESTON, W.Va. -- When things don't happen how or when you think they should, does your mind start racing? Do you jump to conclusions?
I find, all too often, we make ourselves miserable for two major reasons:
1. We make assumptions.
2. We take things personally.
This sounds so simple. Yet, if you'll check yourself when your mind starts to run away with you, you may be surprised how many things fall into these two categories. Take a look at this list of "thinking mistakes" and see if any strike a chord with you:
"Yes, but" thinking: You ignore the positives in your life and focus only on the negatives. Example: A friend says you look nice in your new outfit, and you say to yourself, "She's just saying that to be nice. She can probably tell I've gained 10 pounds."
Mind reading: You act like you're able to tell what other people are thinking without checking with them first. Example: A business associate doesn't return your call, and you say to yourself, "Why doesn't he like me anymore? What did I do?"
Telling the future: You act as if you can predict the future -- and know something will turn out badly. Example: You see a job listing and want to apply, but tell yourself, "I'll never get it. There's too much competition." So you don't even try.