CHARLESTON, W.Va. -- Chances are you learned the Golden Rule while growing up: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." So, what do you do when you follow the first part, and the second part doesn't happen?
Most likely you'll react in one of two ways:
It's just human nature to jump to one of these conclusions. We've all done it most of our lives.
I'm trying out a third method, and I'll admit it takes some getting used to. My first inclination is to run to the old patterns. And then, if I catch myself, I'll shift gears.
You might have heard about my "PIP It" philosophy. The credit for the name goes to my niece, Caity. She uses it with her kids when she tells them to "PIP It" -- Put It Into Perspective.
It's a cute trigger and helps me to snap back sometimes (when I don't fall into the old patterns). And, while the philosophy is sound, a picture is worth a thousand words. So, I've tuned in to some life examples that illustrate the point, and I've done my best to summarize the stories:
Finally, someone speaks up and says, "Just what are you going to do about those kids?" The voice jolts him, and he turns to look at the speaker and the other passengers. "I just don't know," he says, his eyes tearing up. "We just came from the hospital where their mother has died. I just don't know."
Talk about a "PIP It" moment. The other passengers immediately became sympathetic toward the man and his kids -- and felt ashamed of their earlier reactions.