Back to the payoff. If we get something out of being late --stimulation, attention or more time for ourselves -- our behavior is reinforced, and we'll continue to be late. If we get nothing out of being early, we'll associate earliness with a lack of rewards. Naturally, we set ourselves up for failure.
Rewards are positive motivators, so I'm instilling systems to associate positive feelings that will help me "welcome the wait." (Thanks to John Nelson and Barbie Dallman for this powerful insight!)
For me, this is about much more than being on time. It goes to the very core of self-trust. It's about setting boundaries on my time and energy that result in internal validation. The one person I need to trust the most is myself -- and, yet, I've let myself down, time after time. I need to earn that trust.
Bad habits are really nothing more than the wrong decision made over and over. I'm incorporating a plan for myself, much like one I'd create for a client. I'd also like to hear your stories, if you care to share.
And my top secret weapon for success? Now I have to be accountable to all of you!
Linda Arnold, MBA, is a certified wellness instructor and chairwoman/CEO of The Arnold Agency, a marketing communications company specializing in advertising, public relations, government relations and interactive marketing. Reader comments are welcome and may be directed to Linda Arnold, The Arnold Agency, 117 Summers St., Charleston, WV 25301, or emailed to livelifefu...@arnoldagency.com.