Write down your frustrations in a journal. Get your feelings out.
Use the silly voice technique. According to Russ Harris, author of "The Happiness Trap," swapping the voice in your head with a cartoon voice will help take back power from the troubling thought. Remember the voice of Charlie Brown's teacher? Or you could just say, "Thanks for sharing, Babbler."
Put yourself in the offender's shoes. We all make mistakes, and odds are you've slipped -- just as easily as your husband, wife or friend did. Compassion dissolves anger.
Help someone in need.
Look for your role in the situation. It's so easy to point the finger at someone else. In doing so, though, you give away your power. Acknowledging your role helps you emerge -- feeling more empowered and less bitter.
Move -- exercise decreases stress hormones and increases "feel good" endorphins.
Express yourself creatively -- blog, paint or dance.
Practice deep breathing, meditation or prayer. Get out into nature.
Watch a funny video on YouTube for five minutes -- switch up your energy.
Wear a rubber band on your wrist, and gently flick it when you start obsessing. This trains your mind to associate that type of persistent negativity with something unpleasant.
Identify what the experience taught you -- to develop a sense of closure.
Post this statement where you'll see it: "Healing myself means letting go. And I'm worth it."
My favorite affirmation, which I repeat every night while going to sleep and sometimes during the day, comes from a mentor, Louise Hay:
"All is well. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation only good will come. And I am safe and protected always."
Linda Arnold, M.A., MBA, is a certified wellness instructor, counselor and chairwoman/CEO of The Arnold Agency, a marketing communications firm with offices in West Virginia, Montana and Washington, D.C. Reader comments are welcome and may be directed to Linda Arnold, The Arnold Agency, 117 Summers St., Charleston, WV 2530l or emailed to livelifefu...@arnoldagency.com.