CHARLESTON, W.Va. -- Those darting eyes. That clenched fist. Those folded arms.
Did you know your body language is saying much more than the words you're speaking? In fact, it composes 60 to 70 percent of our communication, according to body language expert Kevin Hogan. So, are you sure you're sending the right message?
Positive body language says things like, "I'm really interested in what you're saying." Negative body language conveys things like, "I don't believe a word you're saying. Besides, I'm bored."
Although body language originates in the brain's limbic system ("old brain") and occurs unconsciously, we can learn to minimize it with training, according to the website www.learnbodylanguage.org. You may even remember a TV show from a few years ago, "Lie to Me," about an investigator who analyzed body language to crack criminal cases.
Here are a few giveaways:
It's been said that our eyes are the windows of our souls. And they certainly play a major role in our body language. Check out these "visual accessing cues," identified by researchers Richard Bandler and John Grinder, who pioneered studies in neurolinguistic programming.
These observations are from your viewpoint -- looking at the subject. And they're based on a right-handed perspective. Many left-handed people access information opposite that of right-handed folks. You can test someone (or have them test you) by posing quick questions about historic facts to get an individual baseline.
Generally speaking, you could say "right is recalled" and "left is lying." While body language is a good indicator of when a person is lying, it's not foolproof. So, just take these guidelines as a heads-up warning that something is not quite right.
Here's what to watch out for when a person is lying to you: