Listen to your gut instinct. Don't focus on what other people think. Making a decision sometimes forces you to grow in areas where you're not comfortable. When you second-guess yourself, it's usually because of that discomfort. Even if you're not seeing an obvious positive result yet, it could be on its way.
I often say in hindsight, "I wouldn't have scripted things this way, but this is exactly what I needed to get into action."
Choose a new thought
Stop beating yourself up! There's absolutely no power in that. Chances are you're bringing other people into that internal dialogue and giving them power over you. There's a proverb that says, "If there is no enemy within, then the enemy on the outside can do no harm."
Instead of focusing on external sources, know that things are working out for your highest good and that you're learning and growing while you find your bearings. That can transform fear, anxiety and depression into confidence, peace and a "knowing."
Don't dwell on perfection
Cut your priorities in half. Many of us become immobilized when we have too much to do. When you're overwhelmed and feel like quitting, identify the first step you can take. Fear sets in when you procrastinate, causing you to second-guess your decisions, which can lead to anxiety.
Assess what you're learning
Because we're always in a state of flux, there may well be things you'll do differently next time. Ask yourself, "If I had it to do over, what would I do differently?" And then congratulate yourself, rather than berating yourself. This is how new behavior is born. You can't learn if you're not playing the game.
Get comfortable with mistakes
Time gives us an opportunity to fix all sorts of things we think we may have screwed up. There's power in simply letting things go and deciding to re-evaluate them at a future date. Ask yourself, "What if I did make a wrong decision? Is it OK for me to have made a mistake?" And then let it go. Getting comfortable with making mistakes could have been the entire lesson! Who knew?
Go easy on yourself
Life is a hardhat zone. We're always under construction. You're not who you were yesterday, and you're not who you'll be tomorrow. Make peace with that. Life is full of second chances.
As the proverb states, "Good decisions come from experience, and experience comes from bad decisions."
Linda Arnold, M.A., MBA, is a certified wellness instructor, counselor and chairwoman/CEO of The Arnold Agency, a marketing communications firm with offices in West Virginia, Montana and Washington, D.C. Reader comments are welcome and may be directed to Linda Arnold, The Arnold Agency, 117 Summers St., Charleston, WV 25301 or emailed to livelifefu...@arnoldagency.com.