As if that's not bad enough, when you share what bothers you with someone who sympathizes and agrees with you, the negative energy expands.
The good news is that there's a creative way to express how you authentically feel without inviting undesirable consequences into your present or future. Whenever you feel it's necessary to reference something of a negative nature, simply preface your statements with "in the past" or "up until now." These qualifiers send signals to our subconscious that neutralize any potential negative charge.
Here's an example: "In the past, I've suffered from chronic insomnia. Starting today, I choose to find effective ways to consistently sleep through the night and awaken fully refreshed each morning."
Four magic words
To invite more abundance into your life, precede whatever you say with "I love it when ..." Using these four simple words prevents your inner critic from filling your mind with doubt. As an example, you could declare, "I love it when I receive unexpected income." This opens the door and invites that possibility into your life in a joyful and whimsical way.
Nine magic words
There are nine compelling words that take only three seconds to say. And yet they have the power to transform even the crustiest curmudgeon. Experiment with these empowering words: "Do you know what I like about you, [the person's name]?"
Not only will this intriguing question inspire the person who hears it, but these heartfelt words will also instantly elevate your own sense of well being. With a sincere desire to help someone else feel better about himself or herself, try using these nine magic words. If you come from an authentic place, you may be amazed with the results. And we can always find something positive in another person if we look hard enough!
Here's to that fresh, blank canvas for 2014! This really is "the most wonderful time of the year" for me. Embrace these 365 brand-new days, 12 delicious months and 52 amazing weeks. It's yours to create!
Linda Arnold, M.A., M.B.A., is a certified wellness instructor, counselor and Chairwoman/CEO of The Arnold Agency, a marketing communications firm with offices in West Virginia, Montana and Washington, D.C. Reader comments are welcome and may be directed to Linda Arnold, The Arnold Agency, 117 Summers Street, Charleston, WV 25301 or e-mailed to livelifefu...@arnoldagency.com.