In doing so, however, we could be shooting ourselves in the foot. Because effective communication doesn't happen in a heated setting.
Although we know this rationally, it takes practice to stay calm in situations in which we feel attacked. Here's a little tip that may help.
Whenever you notice that you disagree with someone else's viewpoint, try the following exercise, as recommended in the Lefkoe Belief Process:
Don't get me wrong. I'm not suggesting you give up your viewpoints or beliefs. In fact, I admire people who stand up for their principles. Feel free to hold on to any points of view you'd like. And continue to fight for them.
Just don't claim that yours are true and someone else's are false. None of them are totally true. And it's OK to prefer one to the other.
You may find it refreshing to have a logical reason to accept another person's point of view -- realizing that it came out of their life experience -- rather than struggling to make them wrong and yourself right.
And you never know what is going on in another person's life. How appropriate that the following quote came across my radar in an email this morning, thanks to my friend, Greg Henshall. Ancient wisdom that endures.
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." -- Plato (429-347 B.C.)
Linda Arnold, M.A., M.B.A., is a certified wellness instructor, counselor and Chairwoman/CEO of The Arnold Agency, a marketing communications firm with offices in West Virginia, Montana and Washington, D.C. Reader comments are welcome and may be directed to Linda Arnold, The Arnold Agency, 117 Summers St., Charleston, WV 25301, or livelifefu...@arnoldagency.com.