In an AP interview, a young New York woman was quoted as saying, "You don't turn your back on a loved one. You support them. You don't want your kids to see you abandoning their father in his time of need."
Another woman also empathized with Spitzer's wife, saying she suspected Silda was standing by her man "for the sake of their three daughters."
Oh, jeez. It's the pod people. They're here.
Perhaps I missed that particular parenting class, but what exactly do these women believe they're teaching their children here? Can't they see that they're teaching them that they should accept unacceptable behavior? They need to ask themselves what they would want their own daughter to do if she found herself in such a position. Would they honestly want their child to do as they've done?
I understand the politics behind the loyal spouse pose, just as I understand that these women live in a far different world than I do. But that world isn't so different to make what they're trading acceptable. No parent should be willing to sacrifice their child's values for the other parent's political (and sexual) aspirations.
I have no respect for these marital martyrs. If they're willing to accept the public humiliation bestowed upon them by way of their spouse, that's their choice. But if I hear another political mom claim she's staying for the sake of the children, I believe I'm going to scream. Because while some children will actually do as you say, pretty much all of them will more likely do as you do.
What about forgiveness, you might ask? Oh, I'm all about forgiving, but forgiving and accepting are two different animals. How many times should a person turn the other cheek before realizing they can avoid being struck altogether simply by moving away? You can forgive a person and maintain a civil - even cordial - relationship with them, while at the same time removing yourself (and your children) from the person who chose to pursue behavior that simply should not be accepted.
One of the most fundamental lessons we parents are charged with teaching our children is the difference between right and wrong. If you misbehave, there's a price you might pay.
And you just might pay it alone.
Karin Fuller can be reached via e-mail at karinful...@cnpapers.com. Her columns can be accessed online through her blog at thegazz.com.