"A sparkling house is a fine thing if the children aren't robbed of their luster in keeping it that way."
Another good one! And it was one that could feed right into my rationalizing way of thinking. If a clean house means you could be robbing your child of their luster, what kind of mother would I be if I risked something like that?
I was beginning to wonder if perhaps this Marcelene wasn't a long-lost rationalizing sister of mine, but I detected a hint of bitterness in her luster quote that set my antennae to twitching. I kept reading.
The next one: "If at first you don't succeed, blame your parents."
Bingo. The words of a person looking to point the finger away from their self.
Perhaps Marcelene had her tongue firmly in cheek when she came up with that last one, but for me, it tainted them all.
Yes, the failings of a parent can badly damage a child, but at some point, the child has a responsibility to try anyway. Accepting that they can never be better that what their parents think of them or that they can blame their parents if they don't succeed isn't rationalization. It's a cop-out.
For the second time that day, I wadded the calendar page and tossed it in the trash. I already had a different page in my collection that better framed how I feel:
"A man may fall many times, but he won't be a failure until he says someone pushed him." - Elmer Letterman