The woman who wrote the article, Alexandra Rosas, talked of being present for both her mother's and grandmother's final moments, and as the end was drawing near, the women each talked of what they wished they'd done differently.
"They want us to focus less on the big picture of building a body of evidence that proves our accomplishments, and more on the true wonders in our life," Rosas wrote, saying her relatives recommended that we stop chasing "what we think leads to happiness, and slow down before we rush past the very thing we'll wish we had more of at the very last hours of our days."
I suspect Susan sent the article because she knows I'm forever caught up in a frenzy of getting things done, of hurrying through life, rushing from this commitment to that responsibility and then over to some other obligation. But there's a hidden blessing to my crazy pace in that it's hard to hover on the sad stuff for long. Still, there are times -- often at 2 in the morning -- when it shakes me awake and insists on being noticed. It's a shame the many small blessings I'm missing in my rush aren't as loud.
I recently tore a page from the July 2013 issue of Golf Digest where Jim Murray is talking about golf legend Jack Nicklaus' reaction after having played a bad round of golf. Wrote Murray: "When [author Ernest] Hemingway found he could no longer write, he got up the next day and shot himself. When Jack Nicklaus found he could shoot an 83, he got up the next day and shot a 66."
I liked what that said about Nicklaus -- that he didn't hit the wall and quit. He climbed over.
I think there are going to be times when we all whack up against some barrier that seems insurmountable, but if we don't give up, we'll eventually either get over it or find a way around, or the wall will gradually become smaller and more manageable.
I wish my friend had fought the wall, that she hadn't been in such a hurry to reach the end of her days.
As for me, I'm going to keep reminding myself, as often as it takes, to linger longer and start savoring mine.
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