Wait - back up. I think that last sentence was written for me, not just by me. I've spent much of my life setting goals and getting into action to accomplish them - sometimes successfully, sometimes not so much. I still set goals. It's just that they build in mechanisms for balance in a way that adds fullness and richness to the moments in my life. At least that's my goal ...
In our digital world, it's hard to resist the urge to multitask. I heard Jay Leno on a segment of "Jaywalking" the other night. He was surveying people about attempted laws to restrict cell phone usage while driving. One young woman voiced her extreme objection by saying, "Geez, there's nothing else to do when you drive."
Even though multitasking is sometimes necessary and may provide temporary relief, it takes its toll in the long run. The person on the other end of the phone line can tell when you're checking e-mail while talking to him or her. An obligatory phone call to a family member or friend that does not come from the heart shows. My friend John calls this "sending your representative."
So, who do you want to show up in your life, yourself or your representative? If you just keep going through the motions, it's likely that your representative is showing up, and that robs you of actually experiencing the interaction or task. Not that every communication or activity is going to be enjoyable. We all have those things we put off because we want to avoid an uncomfortable scenario. Our outlook on a situation can go a long way toward determining our end result, though.
Ponder these thoughts if they strike a chord with you, and let me know how your life lists are coming along.
And now, a few parting words of wisdom:
"There is never enough time - unless you're serving it." - Malcolm Forbes
"There is time for work. And time for love. That leaves no other time." - Coco Chanel
Linda Arnold is a certified wellness instructor and founder and chairwoman of The Arnold Agency, an integrated marketing communications firm in Charleston. Reader comments or questions may be mailed to Linda Arnold, The Arnold Agency, 117 Summers St., Charleston, WV 25301, or e-mail livinglifefu...@arnoldagency.com">livinglifefu...@arnoldagency.com.