Sally is lonely. She's waiting for that special person to come along. But she meets few people because she works all day and then goes directly home. She thinks of going places where there are people but does not translate the thought into decisive action. She hopes the right person will materialize. Somehow, someday, she's almost sure he will. She continues to be a wallflower in life, spending nearly all her time in the office or at home, isolated.
The simple fact is that success in any area of life requires full participation and commitment to a choice. Joe can't take responsibility for ordering food. Actually, Joe probably lost touch with what tastes good to him long ago. In so doing, he dulled his tastes, his judgment and his spontaneity. This small symptom is likely evidence of other areas in which Joe has abdicated decision-making and has wound up miserable.
Sally can't take responsibility for making the decision to go out and meet people. She can't bring herself to participate fully in her own life. Waiting for the right person to "happen" practically guarantees that she never will.
So how do we start to change these ingrained behaviors? Check out this list of "Secrets of Decision Success" by Dr. Rubin for some clues:
Now go out and make some decisions. Get some ertia!
Linda Arnold, MBA, is a certified wellness instructor and founder and chairwoman of The Arnold Agency, an integrated marketing communications firm in Charleston. Reader comments or questions may be mailed to Linda Arnold, The Arnold Agency, 117 Summers St., Charleston, WV 25301, or e-mail livinglifefu...@arnoldagency.com.