"Peeling the onion" is a process I've learned at seminars, and that's exactly what happened in this case. As we rewound the situation and peeled off one layer, another was waiting beneath. Once we got to the core of the issue (which didn't take that much time, actually), we found we had more common goals than we thought. And it was easier to get on the same page.
Which got me thinking about how often this can occur in our daily lives. Here's a handy tip you can use as a personal fact checker: Thoughts are not facts.
Pay attention to your gut feelings. That's your intuition speaking to you. It probably gets drowned out a lot by all those sources around you -- friends, family, co-workers, the media, etc. The more you trust your intuition, though, the more it will show up. It takes time, effort and finesse. That's because most of us have buried our intuition under lots of layers, like that onion.
We also need to evaluate how long to keep our options open. In life, decisions need to be made; and we need to move on. I'm not saying we need to stop and examine everything to the nth degree. Just pay attention when you feel you're being swept away by the tide.
While that inner voice may not always be 100 percent accurate, odds are it will steer you in the right direction. Or, at least, give you the peace of having paid attention and explored other options.
The more you exercise your intuition muscle, the stronger it gets. And the more it will be there for you.
Linda Arnold, MBA, is a certified wellness instructor and chairwoman/CEO of The Arnold Agency, a marketing communications company specializing in advertising, public relations, government relations and interactive marketing. Reader comments are welcome and may be directed to Linda Arnold, The Arnold Agency, 117 Summers St., Charleston, WV 25301, or emailed to livelifefu...@arnoldagency.com.