CHARLESTON, W.Va. -- Let's face it. Some people just can't relax. It's actually stressful for them.
How can this be? After all, most dreams described by lottery winner wannabes usually include a chaise longue on a secluded beach with turquoise water and a sailboat in the background.
For a number of folks, though, this would be torture. They have to keep moving, achieving and accomplishing. They can't sit still. And they often feel like they're being propelled through space without enough time to do what they really want.
While it's true there are many demands on us these days, this type of behavior can often occur when we're trying to avoid dealing with other issues in our lives. We tell ourselves -- and the world -- we're just so busy! And that's quite a noble excuse. If left unchecked, though, a cycle of negativity can set in with complaints about not having enough time to get everything done.
You know the feeling. You should be grateful for what you have in life and focus on the positive things. Yet, those negative thoughts have such a sneaky way of creeping in.
That's OK -- to a point. It's good to acknowledge our anxieties and feel our feelings. It's just when we allow those negative thoughts to mushroom -- and take over our consciousness -- that we can get into trouble.
Then we start focusing on what we don't want to happen. And those repetitive negative thoughts, coupled with extreme emotional charges, act like a magnet to draw those things toward us, according to the universal Law of Attraction.
Like attracts like. With negative thoughts, the more worried and fearful we become, the more worries and fears we attract. On a physiological level, stress causes the section of our brain known as the hypothalamus to secrete cortisol, the "stress hormone."
For a lot of folks, the experience of cortisol in our system becomes so normal that not feeling stressed results in our emotional discomfort. Yikes -- it's like we're addicted! Maybe not in the clinical sense, but it sure can feel like it.
Negativity has actually been likened to an addiction: It causes a physiological response; it can feel compulsory at times; and it can be very difficult to shake, explains author and life coach Anisa Aven.
Here's a startling concept. When some folks don't feel stressed, they begin to fear they're "not prepared" or not "doing enough" or that they could be setting themselves up for disappointment. These examples represent only a few of the many reasons people become addicted to stress (and, thus, the stress hormone, cortisol).