Catastrophizing: Do you always anticipate the worst? The drive-through coffee shop gets your order wrong and you automatically think the rest of your day will be a disaster.
Polarizing: Do you see things only as good or bad, black or white? There's no middle ground? If you're not perfect, you're a total failure? With practice, you can learn to flip your negative switch. The Mayo Clinic offers a few tips:
So, how will you show up in your own life this year? What kind of lens will you be looking through? Being present or staying stuck in the past? Being grateful or worrying about the future?
This has everything to do with the quality of life we experience whether we're just going through the motions or weaving a rich tapestry.
That's what makes this time -- the new year -- so impactful. We get to take stock of the year we're saying goodbye to and welcome the one that's ahead. I refer to it as "the year in review and the year in preview." A foundation of gratitude and faith helps to set the stage for things seen and not yet seen.
As author Carlos Castenada says, "We either make ourselves happy or we make ourselves miserable. The amount of work is the same."
Linda Arnold, M.A., MBA, is a certified wellness instructor, counselor and chairwoman/CEO of The Arnold Agency, a marketing communications firm with offices in West Virginia, Montana and Washington, D.C. Reader comments are welcome and may be directed to Linda Arnold, The Arnold Agency, 117 Summers St., Charleston, WV 25301, or emailed to livelifefu...@arnoldagency.com.