CHARLESTON, W.Va. -- My friend Caitlin and I were on our way to a hair appointment when a car passed ours. It was all decked out with toilet-paper streamers, and across the rear window, someone had written: "Just Divorced."
"You should do that," Caitlin said.
"I'm not divorced yet," I said. "Besides, it's not something I feel much like celebrating."
Caitlin is an exuberant person. She's lively and bubbly and, yeah, there are times I want to smack those traits right out of her, but she gave me this upbeat little pep talk about how I should reclaim my life and my space, that even if divorce isn't something I think should be celebrated, I should make it a launching point for changing the parts of my life I don't like.
She reminded me that I can't start the next chapter of my life if I keep rereading the last one. Even though I know what she's saying is true, putting the advice into play hasn't been easy.
I keep telling myself I'm not giving up. I'm just starting over.
If a person could attain professional status by the number of times they go back to Start, I'd be leading a pro team of losers right now.
Over the past several months, I've been so overwhelmed by all the knots that needed untying that I've been emotionally and physically exhausted. It seems like every nook and cranny of life has been affected.