His nurse came over and gave me a hug and handed me a tissue and left me and my husband in that same room, yet again to let out our frustrations. And this time, there were frustrations. Of course we were so heartbroken that we were sick but now we were just angry. WHY? We just kept screaming it out, "WHY, WHY, WHY!" Which brings me to the reason I felt it so imperative to write this article.
As of right now there is really nothing science or doctors can do to prevent miscarriage. You can eat healthy, exercise, avoid tobacco and alcohol, take your prenatals, and take any advice your doctor gives you, but it doesn't guarantee your body is going to process everything correctly. The miraculous forming of a pregnancy is an extremely complex biochemical genetic process. It is one that involves a lot of steps, a lot of chromosomes and blood types that all have to match up just perfectly. If any one thing goes wrong then your body will do what it is programmed to do which is stop the pregnancy.
Scientists and doctors aren't really sure what even causes miscarriages specifically. A lot of times it is chromosomal related, but even then our technology has not reached a point to where the exact cause can be pinpointed and repaired, prevented, or avoided altogether. Science just isn't there yet.
This is why we need awareness. We need outreach, support, fundraising and research. Those of us who miscarry will heal physically in about one to four weeks usually. However, emotionally sometimes people never come to terms with their loss because there are usually no answers. We are left confused. We have more questions than we do answers, and most significantly, we're left feeling alone.
There is an awareness ribbon for miscarriage/infant loss/SIDS. It's pink on one side and blue on the other. I have a crystal necklace in that image that I wear everyday. And so often I'm asked if I am a breast cancer survivor because of my beautiful necklace. I simply say, "Thank you, but no this is for infant loss awareness," and then I tell them if they know anyone who has lost a baby to miscarriage, early infant loss, SIDS, etc., to go online and order this same exact necklace. Not only does it get the word out, but it's a little piece of comfort that there are people out there trying to spread the word, trying to make society more aware of the pain these women and families go through with this sort of loss.
You won't see many commercials about this cause or many fundraisers, but I hope this article will encourage others to reach out, to get involved, even if it's just for emotional support, so that way no one has to suffer in silence any longer.
Hunt lives in Charleston.
For more information, visit the American Pregnancy Association, americanpregnancy.org, or october15th.com about pregnancy/infant loss awareness day events.
Five events are scheduled in West Virginia this month:
* Noon, Oct. 12, Baby Steps Pregnancy/Infant Loss Remembrance Walk, Barboursville City Park.
* 2 p.m., Oct. 12, N.O.A.H's Walk to Remember, Greenbrier Valley Medical Center in Ronceverte.
* 3 p.m., Oct. 13, 8th Annual Remembrance, Hope & Celebration Walk, Glenwood Park Shelter #2, Princeton.
* 5 p.m., Oct. 15, Remembering our Babies of the Ohio Valley, Heritage Port, Wheeling.
* 6:30 p.m., Oct. 15, Forget Me Not Floating Lantern Ceremony, Covenant Christian Fellowship, 1863 Oakridge Drive, Charleston.