I have gay friends, colleagues and acquaintances. Actually, it feels strange to describe them as such because I don't think of them that way, especially the first group. They are just friends.
I trust they don't think of my sexual orientation any more than I do of theirs.
However, I realize that as a hetereosexual I can take for granted the rights that fall my way with no effort.
I have sensed that these friends - all highly functional in their jobs and community roles - live in a state of disciplined wariness. They are careful about their references to certain topics in the presence of people they do not know well.
I have found myself wanting to break the ice, yet realizing it might not be a good idea.
What about the harsh judgments and reactions I might be subjecting them to?
Obama mentioned the accepting attitudes of his young daughters. I have noticed this in my own children, who are in their 20s, and others of their generation.
Unlike their elders, they have not witnessed the social revolution; they were born into the more diverse culture that resulted. So they don't wrestle with these issues in the way their parents and grandparents do.
Actually, many of them think we're nuts. They've moved on.
And so should we all.
Which brings me to this point: While I understand that some people will choose a presidential candidate in November based on this issue, I will not.
Obama deserves credit for courage in expressing his personal view, but there are more pressing issues for the leader of our country to tackle.
The growing dependency of our culture, not problems related to its diversity, worries me more.
Friend is editor and publisher of the Daily Mail. She may be reached at 348-5124 or by email at nan...@dailymail.com.